A girl is just a girl

I don’t talk about girls much anymore, esp. given the way this blog started.  I guess that is the natural flow of a lot of redpill writers.

I recently have completed over a 30 day pure monk mode challenge, essentially it is no sex, no porn, masturbation etc.  Any guy knows how hard this is.  Further, I have abstained from chasing girls at all, no online dating, no flirting and so on.  I really needed it, I feel like my mind is reset to a pretty good place.

It is really easy to give into the hate.  I know I did.  You can read the first 2-3 years which was mostly rage at the injustice.  This is where the mra, mgtow movements come from.  I considered myself mgtow for years, but I don’t anymore.  I will talk about it some other time, but essentially it was a loser mentality.

I had wrote something similar years ago: https://eruditeknight.wordpress.com/2014/05/23/a-punch-is-just-a-punch-a-girl-is-just-a-girl/

I kind of got it back then, but not to the same level.  I used to be really angry that girls have to DO SHIT and can skate through life with endless attention and free rides.  It pissed me off so bad, that is a major undercurrent of hate in the MGTOW movement, is that a girl merely needs to look cute (and usually not even that) and will have thousands of followers, endless free dinners, new guys, new cocks…

But…that is the way they are.  They are more like NPCs in videogames.  They get the attention but don’t really achieve much in life.  They dont philosophize, they don’t invent, they don’t conquer…which btw feminists how many years of this shit do you need to finally actually have girls ‘do’ something?

If I was a spirit and was given the choice between a man and a woman, I would choose man everytime.  I don’t get the ‘easy mode’ life, but instead I can think critically, I can live a life of my own choosing, I can have highs and lows that a woman would never understand.  I win or lose by my hands alone, not getting carried.

Schopenhauer was a great philsopher no one has heard of, his quote here is appropriate:

You need only look at the way in which she is formed, to see that woman is not meant to undergo great labor, whether of the mind or of the body. She pays the debt of life not by what she does, but by what she suffers; by the pains of child-bearing and care for the child, and by submission to her husband, to whom she should be a patient and cheering companion. The keenest sorrows and joys are not for her, nor is she called upon to display a great deal of strength. The current of her life should be more gentle, peaceful and trivial than man’s, without being essentially happier or unhappier.

Women are directly fitted for acting as the nurses and teachers of our early childhood by the fact that they are themselves childish, frivolous and short-sighted; in a word, they are big children all their life long–a kind of intermediate stage between the child and the full-grown man, who is man in the strict sense of the word.”

 

My recent experience with a NAWALT (unironic)

Any of my long time readers know I came redpill out of the anti-feminist/pua movement, I’ve banged my share of girls but in general are very distrustful, and a degree of misogyny given how shitty modern women are.  Imagine my surprise meeting a ‘not all women are like that’ and that’s not being coy.

I was set up on a pseudo date by a friend of a friend sort of thing.  I wasn’t expecting much but we took a walk and I was surprised by how open-minded she was (she’s 22) about some heavy philosophical concepts.  It is extremely important to note that she grew up in a very small town, and after graduating high school LEFT the usa to go travel and scuba dive for money.  Yes, I know the prediction is a hyper lib girl that slept her way across the globe.

The thing that blew my mind was how easy the conversation was.  We shared our stories, her of traveling the world, mine of my own travels and insights into life.  And you know what was so interesting and novel?  SHE LISTENED.  There wasn’t the issue of nearly every modern female who is incredible sophist, vapid and narcissistic.  Where they feel the need to one up legitimate stories with some pathetic story that is neither related nor equivalent in level of epicness.

She showed a DEFERENCE to my experiences, my stories, my wisdom. I really needed this as a reminder to myself that I actually know what the fuck is going on in this world, and having stupid bitches judge me is not an accurate metric of my intellect.

After the walk, she invited me later to dinner at her house.  She cooked a great meal and we had a conversation at the dinner table for 4 hours about philosophy, reality, and things like that.  She was young, didn’t know nearly the stuff I did, but she had an earnestness and a desire to learn.

No, I didn’t bang her, but intellectually it was so fun and novel for once.  I had told her it was refreshing, because a true conversation requires BOTH people to possess a level of humility that they indeed could be wrong (therefore open to a new idea) and a willingness to learn.

Anyway, it was a great conversation/ ‘date’. I think the real take away are there are great girls out there still, really rare, and the fact she escaped the college indoc. camp is especially notable.

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Talking to others is discouraged, and why you should be doing it

I have a very vicious independent streak in me, for most of my late teens and early 20s I was endlessly dismissive of any as being capable of helping me in any fashion, not that I now doubt my skills, but I am a bit more wise and fully see the value of talking to others to get different viewpoints of a matter – namely because I realized how locked in my thoughts were and to encourage divergent thinking.  This is kind of like the whole manosphere, were men rarely agree on things, but you are exposed to people who clearly think about things, and you are forced to either re-evaluate what you believe, or at least truly question what you think.

Men as a group as systematically raised to NOT seek others help for things that matter, I think this is likely purposeful and leads us to be taken advantage of easily.  Understand what I am saying: girls routinely talk to each other about their problems, and come to answers guys never do ‘going it alone’, whereas guys going alone have only one source of information: the collective – so of course their conclusions will often be wrong.  Example 1: the complete failure of men with women in everything to dating to staying with bpd women, how white knightism is encouraged, and can never figure anything out.

We get caught in bad relationships and the ONLY thing we know how to do is what society told us to do ‘man up’ and stay with the bitch or damaging girl, or to ‘man up’ and prove your loyalty to some cuckolding bitch and somehow so how great you are and make her come back to you.

When I was getting destroyed by my bpd girl, most of my ‘friends’ didn’t give a shit and wouldn’t talk to me, I had one guy I became good friends with (we since fell apart due to something else) but we actually talked about girls, and it was insane how productive it was – this was before I found the manosphere but same idea.  We could see things from different perspectives, talk about ‘does this really work?’ and so on, it helped so tremendously to transcend the false world we find ourselves.

I have a friend now we talk philosophy about, about how America is an endless aristocracy, how democracy if not completely rigged than serves the same purpose of controlling the masses by offering no real choices, how corporatism is the biggest threat…and when I tell others I TALK to someone else raise a suspicious eye because people just don’t talk anymore.  That’s exactly how they want it.  If you aren’t talking to others, then they get to talk to you: through the tv, through rigged media, through porn, through football etc etc.

I highly encourage trying to find people who are divergent thinkers and engage them in conversation, it doesn’t matter if they believe something totally different, because you can both see why you believe something, and maybe hear something you never considered, and at the very least to question your own beliefs, and you will likely find what I did – so many you have held really are insubstantial and require a new valuation.  A new way to truly see life instead of the packaged view you have been ‘gifted’.

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