Borderline Personality Disorder in a girl is by far one of the most often problems a man will run into that will ruin his mental state, and if he recovers leads a large amount of them to ‘take the pill’ and realize the harsh truth of sexual dynamics. I am going to make a claim that will make a lot of feminists angry, but the simply reality is BPD is nothing more than an exaggeration of modern female traits.
Now I do NOT mean to make light of a girl in your life with this, she will fuck you up emotionally SO bad, I went through this myself. I consider myself emotionally strong, but I was fucked up for about 6 months straight because of this dumb whore. Let’s get to it.
In case you don’t know what BPD is, it is a mental ‘disorder’ (I am highly skeptical of mental disorders in general, but thats for another time) characterized by the following:
Lack of affect
problems with interpersonal relationships
problems with self image
fears of abandonment
intense anger or irritability
idealization and devaluation of others
self harm/suicidal ideas are common
Fittingly, a lot of feminists argue AGAINST the definition of BPD…hmm, maybe the qualifications hit a little too close to home?
Of these, the biggest ones are the lack of affect, and the idealization/devaluation. Evey BPD is slightly different, but they follow a pretty typical pattern. BPD girls tend to be hotter than your average girl (which I freely grant may be selection bias, because the uglier bpd girls are not going to affect a guy as much as he wont get attached). BPD relationships move very erratically, the girl may be secretive for a while, only to be telling you about how she was ‘raped’ when she was younger etc. (Much like sluts, BPD girls have a very high incidence of ‘rape’ in their youth) The BPD tends to be very ‘on’ at first, meaning this girl that seemingly loves you and everything you do. She wants to have sex all the time, or at least is much faster to sex than other girls etc.
Now here is the problem, at first BPD relationships are insanely awesome, there is this hot girl that IDEALIZES everything you do, and compared to most girls this is a breath of fresh air. ‘Finally, someone gets me!’ you think when you are not drugged into pleasant stupor by the constant sex they engage in. There are always a few red flags, like the strange childhood drama, or things like that. From my own experience and others, they tell you things at really weird times. Like you will be having sex when she tells you ‘I used to cut myself’. The one I was involved with, we were slamming it out when she stops ‘does it bother you that I like girls as much as guys?’
Intermittent reinforcement relationships is the key to what these girls do. IR is something on how humans become addicted, think of a slot machine, SOMETIMES you win. If you always lost you would move on. BPD girls are natural masters of IR, because it will be awesome ‘oh my god, you are the greatest person ever, I dont deserve you’ about how special you are etc. Wow, this is great man, this hot ass girl thinks I am so good. Especially once it gets sexual, the untrained human mind is not ready for the multitude of assaults it is under. How can you possibly think rationally when your ego is being stroked, and you dick is being stroked and sucked by a trained master?
Then…the darkness slowly starts. It will be a cold day. She won’t be friendly, something will be ‘wrong’. Maybe a mild lash out at first depending on how ‘deep’ her hooks are in you. ‘Fuck this bitch, she is out of here’ you might think in moments of clarity, but then she is all lovey-dovey and sorry and sexual and you forget.
They are MASTER manipulators. Do not underestimate this. When this girl is crying to you ‘I’m so bad to you, you deserve someone better, I am so glad you are helping me’ followed by undressing your pants with practiced speeds.
Writing this dregs up some memories I had locked away. The pain and manipulation they are capable of can mess you up so bad. I was strong, but I can admit I was rocked, and was continued to be rocked and was saved simply by circumstance. I was ready to sacrifice myself for this slut, that realization chills me to this day – thats how strong their manipulation is.
There is a message board called bpdfamily which I used to go to for a while, the stories there will chill your spine. There are bpd women out there that routinely cuckold guys, leave marriages of many years, live secret lives, endlessly abuse then sex the males in their life. The sad thing is, it took me about 6-9 months of serious emotional pain, but I would go back to that board every few months for about a year to drop encouragement about guys to leave their BPD girls, and the same guys were still on there bemoaning ‘should I leave? does she love me?’ etc.
Being on the other side I wanted to shake and slap these guys ‘wake the fuck up! I was there, I know your pain! Run away from that girl as fast as you fucking can!’ but…when you are addicted to intermittent reinforcement relationships there is little you can do barring huge willpower.
In case you are here ‘looking for answers’ because man, thats all you do when you are under their spell, you ‘look for answers’ ‘does she love me?’ ‘why did she do that?’ etc. There is not going to be a line you suddenly read that its like ‘well fuck I guess I better leave!’ just know there were men that went through this before you, and EVERY SINGLE ONE says it is better on the other side once you finally get away from this girl. Get the fuck out of their soldier!
The irony, is when you have battled such a ‘high level’ girl like this, the tactics regular girls use are so obvious, the general score is so much easier to see. After all, those traits are only exaggerated forms of what modern girl has come to represent.