A very disturbing pattern exists among women, guys are generally unaware of it, and girls are likely unaware of it or if they loosely grasp it they rationalize it away. The behavior I am talking about is something not easily labeled, but essentially it is this: the inability to realize fantasy vs reality and one guy vs another in her mind.
I have made the mistake a few times in my life, and talking to some of my friends realize they have done it themselves. The general pattern is as follows: there is some girl that is not in close proximity to you (think Long distance relationship, but doesnt even have to be that far)and you are fufilling her emotional need, not ‘friendzone’ but something even a little beyond or much further beyond. It has to deal with sexual tension, this is a girl who you have either had sex with, or it is quite clear it could go down.
What happens can be as simple as sexting, or subtle sexual flirts, anything that gets both you and her going, but for this post the fact is her. She does not need to ‘get off’ or really get anywhere close as long as she is at least a little excited, or legitmately is at all into the conversation.
What happens next my friends will chill the most hardened of souls: you have put all this work into talking about sexual things, sexting, telling her what you are going to do when you meet etc…and she has sex with some random guy.
Yes my friends, what you have just inadvertedly done was get her ready to have sex, and because you weren’t there to lock it down, she had to get it out with someone else.
Essentially you did the emotional foreplay for her, and being weak-willed like she is she had to take care of things. Now, do not get confused I am not saying you sext her, she fucks a guy that night, this is a slow burn thing. Weeks or more typically.
Guys see and think about their goal, it is consistent. “Susie turns me on, therefore I want to have sex with Susie.”
Girls are similar but notice the important difference: “Bill turns me on, therefore I want to have sex” NOT sex with Bill.
Sure if he is there he is preferred, but she already has part ‘done’ with so now all that is necessary is to have a physical release. I am sure my girl readers may deny this shit out of this, but if you do its really your own delusion.
I used to think LDR could actually work, I find them utterly and completely ridiculous and directly counter to any goal a man would have. Unless this is a ‘ride or die bitch’ (I recently learned that term, pretty badass actually – basically a girl who is there for you no matter how desperate your situation. aka like .1% of girls) and you have a long history together. Because ANYTHING else, and any sweet talk you do to her is only going to get her on some other guy.
It is pretty basic psychological transference that is going on here. It nothing that complicated really, but it is something very few think about. Often all this ’emotional work’ you put in once the girl does some other guy, she transfers all YOUR work onto him, you likely wont see her again, or in a diminished capacity, and lo and behold suddenly she has a new boyfriend she is surprisingly serious with.
“I am going to bend you over the table and fuck you so hard.” -EK to hot girl
Some time later: “I have a weird request for you Billy, I know we just met, but will you fuck me over a table?” hot girl to random guy
Not as unlikely as you may think. In fact… it is reality.