I have been thinking about the claim of mra’s about the imbalance of relationship dynamics, and recently I am reminded of how absolutely true they are that a women could UTTERLY END a guy over hearsay and the guy does not wield nearly the same power.
Now I am sure my female readers will instantly think ‘oh we dont have that much power’ I would argue you are unaware because society is constructed so insidiously. Guy’s will instantly sympathize because they know the validity of this statement.
For example, I recently talked about the flirty married girl at my work. There is a cool swimming hole I was talking about to a different co-worker about and married girl said she wanted to come and I should invite her this weekend. (How rare girl ever WANT to go somewhere without being asked?) Long story short, she wanted to come and wanted to go camping, talk about fidelity right? Anyway she slowly started flaking about ‘not wanting to camp anymore’ (again, SHE was the one who came up with the idea) and then the morning we were supposed to hang at 20 min before the meeting time I get a text ‘u remember me saying I am not coming right?’ Obvious she had not priorly said anything, so a typical flake. I hit her with a ‘lolz’ (which I actually hate ‘lol’)as much as I wanted to say ‘fuck off bitch’.
But this got me thinking about flaking and society power. So this bitch flaked on a plan. Is she married so she probably should not be hanging with a guy? Yes. But also when an adult makes a plan it is responsible to show up, not a childish bail. I am not sure what I am going to say to her next time I see her. If you have any ideas let me know. I know PUA’s say ‘dont say anything it comes off as beta’ but I am not really convinced of that. PUA’s claim that by showing it doesnt bother you, you gain more points or whatever. But I actually disagree, girls CAN NOT STAND being shut down/dismissed, because 99% of guys endlessly placate to them: ‘Oh its okay you didn’t come, maybe next time?’ complete with puppy dog eyes.
A guy who actually has value in my mind would be like ‘hey this girl said she was going to be there and was not, she’s gone. I am not going to play some dumb game.’
But…that gets into the problem of society, and its inherent deference to women. Despite her fucking up, if I was to make anything of it I WOULD HAVE TO WATCH MY FUCKING STEP. I will freely grant the situation is different a bit because she is married, but take that out and simply think of a typical girl who bails on a guy. If the guy tells the girl off, or dismisses her or whatever because it is so unusual in her life she will think about it a lot, and what do girls love? Revenge.
The paths for taking a guy down are endless ‘oh he wont stop making sexual advances at me’ or ‘he is so mean to women he is a misogynist’ or really any lie that is only hearsay. But society ever the white-knight can’t let the villains attacking the poor women go unpunished so suddenly you are under a microscope, or your coworkers turn on you, or you get fired…all because you made a girl feel uncomfortable when she fucked up.
It is a very scary situation as a male to fully comprehend what this means, that at any moment a girl (who are whimsical by nature) could take a guy down with absolutely no recourse. It is a terrifying prospect, no wonder guys are dropping out of society. I know I think everyday how the hell to get out of this feminist utopia, otherwise known as a nightmare.