Today- Confidence and Ability
#5 http://wp.me/p2YaVQ-8F -Physical Traits
#4 http://wp.me/p2YaVQ-9G – Discipline
Today I wanted to continue my list of the countdown of what makes a REAL MAN, not some fake pua, not some fake badass that skates by this thin veneer of civilization, but of a man that regardless of circumstances will dominate. In case this needs to be spelled out, this is a type of man that can succeed in this joke of society, and in the event of a collapse is the type of man that will survive and thrive.
That brings us to #3 Confidence and Ability, I purposely put these two together. First of all, what do ALL puas state is sooo important? Confidence, ‘fake it till you make it’ etc. I do not doubt this works up to a point in getting some women to have sex with but it does not make you a real man. You need true confidence, knowing you are the best, knowing what you are capable of. It would not help you survive.
This is why it is related to ability. You actually have to be able to DO something. For all intents it does not really matter the skill, whether you are the best damn mechanic around, or you are a really good runner, you are a sharpshooter etc. you can have a real confidence because you have something real you can show.
To elucidate, fake-confidence is not rooted in anything. You wear a funny hat or have a cocky grin and proceed simply hoping no one really calls your bluff of the airs you put on. Again, in our society such a strategy is less likely to get you killed because of laws etc.
I read a really good article somewhere that basically stated the reason why posturing and false-confidence works is because in a dog-eat-dog or survival situation when someone acted like that they were really called out for it, meaning fights possibly to the death. So we have engrained triggers that ‘oh this guy is acting like a badass, and he is still alive, ergo he must REALLY BE A BADASS’ Which we know is not the case.
True confidence comes from that when its put-up-or-shut-up time you actually put up. You say you are really damn good at running? Well lets race and see what you got. You say you are an expert sniper? I got a good rifle and am a good shot, lets go bet some money on this and see whats up.
When you will really be able to tell is if a collapse or something happens and all these fake-alphas are suddenly shell-shocked and looking bleary eyed at the world wondering how they are suddenly going to survive. That expert sniper? He already knows…one trigger pull at a time like all the rest.
Ability precedes confidence. You can be confident and not really have anything to show for it, but it is simply a delusion, because it has no solid base. If you lack confidence, go get an ability, improve your skills. Start working out hard, learn how to shoot, learn how to fix things, and within a year you will be a different man. Confidence occurs naturally. The real kind anyway.
If you ever need a guide on what would make a real MAN think about a man about 10,000 years ago. Was he peacocking around to rack up notch counts on a bed? No, he was running, fighting, surviving and fucking girls in complete AWE of his power and poise and combat ability. In truth I would be surprised if back then a ‘smirk’ existed, a real man probably had a very grim countenance while spearing down animals. But you could see it in his eyes, he knew what he was doing, and had the skills to back it up. He was the type of man that would shame modern day men, and modern women would probably swoon over him.
I used this avatar before years ago on message boards, and I really like it because anime-style drawing tend to capture emotions better than actual faces. Look how the eyes are a very ‘i dont give a fuck what you think’. THAT is the feeling you must achieve. Your abilities are so good no one can possible compare. If anyone wants to come try it, well ‘lets go…’. You are going to survive anything life throws at you, this pathetic male in front of you? He doesn’t stand a chance.