What is an interesting thing is this brave new world of dating dynamics (can you even still call it dating?) is that despite the propensity for girls being far more slutty they are more protective of the word ‘love’. I talked about this a bit on a prior post (http://wp.me/p2YaVQ-3o) but I find it notably the aversion to the word ‘love’ and that somehow it confers often dim prospects to those that use the word.
Modern girl is an interesting species that you could slam her out (but some dont want the kissing!) run a real risk of getting a disease or getting her pregnant, but heaven forbid ever uttering the words ‘love’ even if it is not even about her. ‘I sure loved dinner tonight’ can easily be interpreted as some insinuation of her.
What is unfortunate is that saying you love someone is a massive devaluation move on your part. Thus we have all this ‘modern’ advice of never being the first to say it, wait for her etc.
A good way to illustrate this, is imagine a typical beta guy, doting endlessly over some hot girl. She gives him occasional reinforcement like girls seem naturally wired to do to keep him hooked (http://wp.me/p2YaVQ-2o) he does everything ‘right’ and she still strings him along. But one fine morning he wakes up to a text ‘I love you frank’, is this a joke? She really does love me!? Uhh, but wait…why does she love me…is she diseased,whats wrong with her?
Because for so long it was a goal, so upon getting it, suddenly one becomes sobered faster than ice water to the face. In this example WHY would this girl suddenly like you so much? If she likes me that much, she must not actually be worth much. It is related to wanting what we cant have, if we see we ‘won’ the game, our interest in it wanes.
It is really unfortunate that in this modern society emotion has been almost utterly eviscerated out of relationships. Now they have become guarded pump and dumps, to which the girls cry about and the guys wish there was a girl that wasnt slutting around.
I love breathing, I love the taste of water,I love spicy food, but I learned never to say ‘love’ to a girl.