Our mind is often our greatest enemy, despite its potential to be our best ally. So often it sabotages everything we do because of the way we frame and think about things.
For example, simply being aware of something tends to magnify it weight, if I tell you to go talk to that girl you will feel far more pressure than if you just do it yourself. If I was to challenge you or myself to do something for 30 days, or avoid something 30 days you might have even done it unconsciously, but now because it is called front and center it becomes much harder. For example ‘stop drinking for 30 days’, even if you only occasionally drink suddenly the mind creates its own sabotage ’30 days…can I make it? I just want a drink so bad…’. Meanwhile no mention of a ‘challenge’ and it probably happened sometime normally.
I remember an old blog challenging his readers to 30 days of no sexual release of any kind. The comments were full of people bemoaning the ‘impossibility’ of this, and as the days rolled on commenter after commenter had failed the challenge. Their minds had become their enemies.
One thing I am conscious of, was before I learned what game was, I had quite a bit of natural early game, confident, unfazed, it literally did not bother me because I was doing it for fun and not interested in getting with the girl. Later when I realized there was a process supposedly I was weighted by ‘oh god, this isnt going good, but I should still ask for number…ahh, got burned. i dont even want to talk to this next one, look at how bitchy she looks…but I supposed to right?’ Because I was ‘supposed’ to, I had lost a lot of my natural interactions. Would I ever go back? No, I can’t I know too much of social dynamics, it is simply now something I have to be aware of and get past. Not caring has been a pretty big key.
It does not have to be this way, our mind can easily crush anything we set our mind to, but we have to be mindful of it. Take the sex challenge. Consider viewpoint A as the sexual desire grows ‘Oh god, Im never going to make it…its ALL I can think about, its ruining my life, it will only take a few minutes…’ then predictably after failure ‘man, I am never going to be able to do this’
Viewpoint B: ‘I am definitely more horny, it is my lower brain attempting to get me sexually satiated. It is only a feeling, if I give it attention it gets worse. In 20 minutes I will forget about this.’
Do I hate girls? Well I find most modern ones to be pathetic farces of what it means to be female, vastly unaware of their overestimated value. But I also know that I go through life hating all girls without giving a chance I will miss the few rare good ones out there. Thus I am forced to be diligent that a mental filter created in one part of my mind does not come to be recognized as a whole, immutable reality.